Help for the Brokenhearted

Throughout my life, I have had the opportunity to encounter lots of different types of people... small and big, happy and sad, overachievers and underachievers. But one group of people has captured my heart... the lonely. At youth camps, schools, grocery stores, and the local park, I can spot them when most people can't. (Those that have moments of loneliness have become very adept at masking those feelings and being the life of the party.) It is to those that I dedicate this webpage.

We don't even like to mention the word loneliness because the word connotation isn't positive in our society today. Even telling a friend that you feel lonely is seen as wimpy and desperate. But it is okay to confess it. Millions of people today battle this silent plague. Loneliness comes in many shapes and forms. It's the teenager who sits at home struggling over the loss of a girlfriend or the breakup with a boyfriend. It's the adolescent who sits in front of the computer and phone hoping someone will communicate. It's the young adult who prays for friends to share with but pushes the same friends away because of fear they will walk away like those before. It's the parent who mourns the family that once existed. And, the list goes on... jocks who rule their school but secretly feel heartache when they go home and realize that their popularity is all superficial... successful students and business people who pour themselves into academics or their careers because they feel inadequate in the pursuit or maintenance of true friendships and relationships... pastors, teachers, and counselors who give, give, give while they themselves feel empty inside.

I could share more, but you know who you are. I have spent a great portion of my life battling this aggressive foe. Being preached at to find complete healing and fulfillment in God, however true, seems hard to do. And sometimes, at our weakest moments of hurting flesh, it seems so inadequate. Being obsessive and compulsive in some aspects of life doesn't make this fear and hurt lessen. Running away from those who may, by drawing close to us and disappointing us once more, make the arrow strike deeper into our wound only causes the seclusion and isolation that is felt grow worse.

So, I share this site with you. I pray for you. This is a place that you can find comfort in sharing and encouraging others. This is where those who googled "loneliness" because it is a rough night and no one is answering the phone can find true peace once and for all.

My hope has come from God. I rest knowing that there is a promise land of awesome relationships and promises waiting for me in the years to come if I walk through this desert. I grow strong as Christ becomes a friend that sticks closer than a brother.

Do not give up. Never give up. Hope lies just around the corner.